This past weekend I went home. I have been in Cobleskill for eight weeks, and figured it was well over due to see my family, puppies, and my friends back home, I also needed to get winter clothes as it is getting colder. When I got back last night with all of my stuff and having a list of things to do before I could sleep it got me thinking.
I have a lot of responsibilities at home, and I could not get out of my house fast enough in order to not have to be responsible for so much and just for myself. I know this is not everyone, and even being excited, college is quite different than what most people expect.
One person even can make a room messy in a week, so you and our roommate need to remember to clean, like sweep the floor. Do not forget to do laundry, and dishes if you make any. It would be good to wipe down counters, especially during flu season. If your trash starts to smell, you need to take it out. This sounds like a list of chores, but its the little things that keep a room nice and orderly.
Last year at this time I I felt like I was in constant disarray, some stuff at home some stuff at school. Then my mom pointed out that I should feel settled because I do not have no home but two homes. We now call it “bihomial” one who lives in two places.
I was thinking back to last year, when I was first here. I was pretty independent at home, we could come and go as we please, as long as my mom had an idea of where we were, kind of, and when we would be home, sort of. Here, no one had to know. You did not have to tell anyone where you are or when you’ll be back. I remember my first weekend the door across the hall never opened after moving in. I didn’t see that floor mate for a week. That is one big difference I find when I am home, I forget I need to check in.
Now it is good while at school to contact your parents. I remember my first day at Cobleskill, a UPD (University Police Department) officer was talking to my mother and me. His advice to me was “Your mother will call, you miss the first one , that’s ok. She calls again, you miss that call, ok. But if you get to missing three calls in a row then she’ll call me (UPD) and I’ll have to find you and I do not want to be searching for you. So do not let it get to the third call.” It really became as simple as that. If my mom calls I usually call her back because we also occasionally text, but set something up with your parents so you do not fell like your checking in but at the same time they feel informed and know your alive and okay.
Coming to college you will be exposed to some things you may never have seen before, that is because there are people from all different walks of life coming together for four short years. These things may be good and may be bad, they will help form your views, and your life. So just be aware of where you are and what is going on. It is not all bad, just people need to be aware.
I think the last piece of advice I got that was very helpful was to just expect the unexpected and go with the flow. Your living away from home, so you are in charge of yourself, and so is everyone else on the floor fell that way. Remember there are still some rules that should be followed, and there are still the laws. But also remember that you make the choices now. No one is going to hold your hand and make sure you do what is right, but there are people here as your cheerleaders all along the way. You may be away from home, but your not on your own.2013-10-16
September 16, 2013